Five steps to Detrigger: catch the moment you start adding meaning, hear the old meaning, don’t add it and wait, find information from a clean place, then act.
Something happens, and before you have finished receiving it, you have added a meaning from your own past. That is what you react to. That is why your feelings are bigger than the event, and why the same words can land as an attack, an inconvenience, or nothing at all.
If this happens often, your system doesn’t have time to recover and gets stuck in that heightened state. It treats everything as an emergency.
When the state opens, perception opens. Your intelligence, presence, creativity and judgement become available again.
A five-step sequence for the exact moment Survival Mode rises. It is simple enough to remember under pressure, and deep enough to use across relationships, work, money, parenting, creativity and life.
“Oh my God, I know what that means.” That is the moment to spot.
Recognise the B: the past meaning trying to attach to this moment. Every part of your body is going to be absolutely sure that that is what B is. Hear it, but don’t add it.
Remove the meaning: there is no meaning here. This means nothing to me. It is open. And don’t impose. While there’s meaning, you don’t make any actions, you don’t take any steps, you don’t do anything. You wait.
It’s called mining for information. You’re not imposing and you’re not adding meaning, so your questions are clean, and they’re about the other person.
Only now do you decide, speak, leave, stay, ask, build or act. The external move may look small, but the internal source of it has changed completely.
Survival, Warrior and Sovereign are not identities or personality types. They are locations, and you can move between them.
The aim is not permanent perfection. It is reliable recognition: knowing where you are, what state is speaking, and how to return before you act.
You may be sovereign in work, Warrior in money and in survival in one relationship, all on the same day.
Survival is defeat: living in a triggered state.
Warrior is fighting yourself to get out of Survival Mode. It works, but you are just fighting the ghosts of your past. It’s the difficult bridge, and it’s where people get stuck. Are you stuck on the bridge?
Sovereign is when they’ve lost their charge. They don’t run you any more, so there’s nothing to fight. What is Sovereign State? It’s the place you get to when you hold, untriggered, for a period of time. It grows in you every time you don’t fall, and you can climb back up to it quicker. It’s the creative space.
The Shift works upstream: before the outcome, before the behaviour, before the story you tell about what just happened.
You add an old meaning to what just landed, and your system decides it is a threat.
Your attention then selects the evidence that agrees with it.
The mind builds a convincing explanation for what the body has already concluded.
You brace, withdraw, force, appease, or choose.
The result appears to prove that the meaning you added was true all along.
A small number of ideas designed to be remembered in real life, not only understood on a page.
You do not see only what is there. You see it through the meaning you have already added.
You cannot withhold a meaning you have not noticed yourself adding.
Your body holds unprocessed feelings, and they rise to the surface when something similar happens again.
You remove the meaning, you don’t impose, and you wait. That is where the moment stays open.
Action is cleaner when it comes from a clean place, not from the meaning you added.
The Detriggering Workshop is a direct, live experience of The Shift in real time, without turning the Framework into a sales page.
Discover The Detriggering Workshop →Why your feelings are bigger than the event, how to Detrigger in the moment, and how to stop fighting the ghosts of your past. Nine pages, from Judith.
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